There are always clear and key signs that a relationship is on the way out. If you’re in a relationship right now then you’ll know exactly how it feels when you are feeling useless, used and unhappy. It’s not the nicest thing in the world but many people stay in unhappy marriages through fear that leaving is the worst thing that they can do. 

However, if you are currently aware that your marriage may be falling apart it can help to stay vigilant to the warning signs of divorce. Understanding that prevention is better than cure is a good place to begin here, with the State 48 Family Law Firm ready to take on your case. You need to think about therapy, too, but to help you through this crisis and not necessarily for resolution if it’s not what you want. So, here are some of the signs that you have a divorce on the cards.

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• You no longer make your partner a priority. A divorce often comes because one of the couples feels invisible. They don’t feel heard or seen and they are often ignored. You cannot give the best of yourself to anyone if you’re ignoring the one person you’re supposed to open up to, or you’re being ignored. People deserve better than that and it's important that while it’s not this that initially leads to divorce, it soon builds up.

• You’re done arguing. This is especially true for women: when they’re done, they no longer pay attention to the person they’ve been with because they don’t have the energy for repeated conversations. Instead, they don’t bother to explain themselves or their feelings anymore to someone who has no interest in changing or learning from it all.

• You have shut down emotionally. You should be able to talk to your partner and if you can't because you are emotionally checking out of the relationship, then you need to think about whether the relationship is the right thing for you anymore. It’s likely not going to be and you have to consider this. If it’s your partner who is emotionally shutting down then it looks more and more likely that a divorce is a good option.

• The intimacy is gone. Every partnership goes through lulls in intimacy but if yours has extended to the point you are flatmates and not lovers anymore, and conversation and therapy isn’t overcoming the intimacy gap then you should consider what that’ll mean for you and your marriage going forward. Not being affectionate towards each other can be mentally and emotionally damaging.

• There are lies happening. Are you lying to your partner? Are they lying to you? It doesn’t  have to be the big lies, but the little ones that build up so much that you both cannot take it anymore. The small lies about who has done the chores and who hasn’t are those that kill a marriage and prevent anyone from being happy. You deserve better than that and so do they!